Most women need to be kissed or rubbed to get in the mood for making love with their partner. Although men may be able to be ready for the act in just a few minutes, women need more time to get turned on and can often become turned off by several triggers. To ensure that you don’t prevent her from being in the mood, there are a few mistakes to avoid both in the bedroom and outside of it.
• Poor Hygiene
Women can easily become grossed out if you’re sweaty and smell due to a lack of proper hygiene. It’s important to shower each day and groom yourself to ensure that your partner is attracted to your appearance and can easily get turned on when you spend time in the bedroom.
Your skin should be clean and smell nice due to soap or body wash that you use, which will remove oil that accumulates throughout the day. You should have clean and trimmed nails with freshly brushed teeth when approaching your partner to avoid turning her off. It’s also important to have hair that is trimmed and styled with a clean-shaven face or a beard that is maintained.
Proper manscaping is also important to ensure that she’s not leery of getting close to certain private parts on your body as you get up close and personal. Keep your body hair trimmed to avoid making her squirm.
The environment that you attempt to get physical with her in will also influence if she’s in the mood. Clean up the bedroom, light a few candles, and dim the lights to make her feel confident and ready to get close. Clutter and junk that is left out will just make her want to clean instead of get in bed together.
• Emotional Disconnect
Women have a natural tendency to withdraw physically from their significant other if there’s an emotional disconnect between the two people. From excessive fighting to neglect, women will not want to get physically close if they aren’t connected to their spouse.
It’s important to show that you care about her by expressing your feelings and showing acts of service without expecting anything in return. You also want to make communication a priority to ensure that she feels cared for. Schedule dates and make her feel valued by taking the time to show her how much she means to you.
Listening is another important part of avoiding having an emotional disconnect in your relationship. It’s important to listen to her as she complains about her long day at work to ensure that she feels supported. Avoid offering a solution or trying to give her advice, which can cause her to feel defensive.
• Mental Stress
Most women are less than interested in being physical if they’re suffering from stress. From managing their finances to dealing with drama with their girlfriends, you’re less likely to turn her on if she has a lot on her mind.
Avoid fighting or causing strain in the relationship if you want to keep her coming back for more when you spend time in the sheets together.
Although you may not be able to control the stress she feels at work or from her friends, you can offset it by giving her a long hug, which is proven to release endorphins. Reassure her that the situation and stress will pass, which can help her to adopt a different perspective.
Men may find it difficult to understand women, but it’s important to know what turns her off when you want to get physical. By keeping yourself clean and maintaining a good attitude in the relationship, she’ll feel more inclined to allow you to touch her before sparks begin to fly as you get close.
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